Two other women, also breast cancer survivors, said their husbands left them after they were diagnosed. Both had to have mastectomies (in case anyone doesn’t know, this is the surgical operation to remove one or both breasts).
The first woman said her husband told her that he would rather see her dead than see her lose her breasts. The second woman had her operation and waited all day to be picked up by her husband, who never arrived. By nightfall, one of the nurses offered to give her a ride, and she came home to find the house empty.
Obviously, these are extreme cases of a man’s reaction to his wife’s breast cancer, but this is what I see when I see the “I ♥ Boobies” bracelets. I see love of the body parts, not the person being treated—not the patient, not the victim, not the survivor."
I really hope someone found those two men and tore their faces up into little ribbony pieces(via sadboybrigade)
My mom died of breast cancer. To me “I love boobies” means you support healthy boobies. You want people to take the time to check them, make sure they’re healthy, care for them. It doesn’t mean they make a person, it just means that you are happy to serve as a reminder or instrument against their neglect. The campaign IS about the flesh and not about the person.
What you have done is confused two issues. One issue relates specifically to breast tissue and the other is a complex blend of gender identity, sexuality, and the perception of womanhood. These men you have noted are not guilty of loving boobies more than their partners, but they are guilty of being too weak to remain secure in their perception of their own gender roles when faced with a partner who no longer represents their narrow view of what a woman is or what she contributes to a relationship. This should not surprise you, our society places an inordinate amount of emphasis on the body as a symbol of gender identity. So much that even many woman question their womanhood after a mastectomy. It is an emotionally confusing and difficult time for everyone, but the fault lies in our society placing a higher value on a woman’s physical attributes over her character.
Perhaps, instead of being against the “I love boobies” campaign, you could start an “I love women” campaign. Because I agree with you that our society needs a campaign aimed at loving women for attributes that transcend the physical.